One Day – All the Days

Valentines day – or as I like to favourably call it: make-those-who-are-forever-single-feel-inadequate day.

“It’s these cards and the movies and the pop songs, they’re to blame for all lies and the heartache, everything.”    -500 Days of Summer (My FAVOURITE film!)

You know, I’m not usually one to rant about these things, well… at least not anywhere but my own head. But, I don’t know. Somehow it all seems so manufactured – dare I use the word ‘commercialised.’ Course, it’s Valentines day. St Valentines day. It has traditional, old roots going back hundreds of years, more than what can be said for most of our Holidays. Still, it somehow manages to feel so insincere, as if all the personality has been sucked from it. An unavoidable necessity, rather than an endearing informality.

I know, I know… there are those to who it means a lot. I understand the intent behind it.

You might say I have never felt love, and you would be right. I haven’t. Not even the tiniest bit; my anxiety and mental health situation have always prevented anything developing. And, despite what I wrote at the beginning, this day doesn’t get me down any more than any other day. I still feel lonely, and I still dream of someone being beside me, someone who I could hold hands with all night long without a word, because the holding would be enough, it would be everything. No matter, it’s not my reality. It might come to be. And that’s what I cling onto; Elation in the possibility, rather than sadness in the stark reality.

I feel that there needn’t be a day in which people are pressured into forcibly showing appreciation for their significant others. Where romanticised pop-culture, cards, social stigmas, set an unreachable standard for love.  It’s just a day, after all – it doesn’t actually have a deep meaning to most people, I’m sure? Is there any need to celebrate something so intrinsic, something so rooted in our hearts?

500 Days of Summer quotes

Sure, I’m biased. I appreciate that. Maybe I’ve got things the wrong way around…


-Chris ❤



11 thoughts on “One Day – All the Days

  1. I agree with you that so many special days are commercialized and the true value of them is lost. There can be special days, but then I believe one can also show love and appreciation the whole year through. As time goes by this is how people have got used to celebrate these special days, which is not agreeable to all.
    I can understand your feelings of loneliness and lack of love when dealing with sad times. I am someone who has been depressed long term for almost 15 years and now recovered completely. If you would like to look into my, “Mental wellness site” maybe you could get some tips on how I managed to overcome depression. And also the feelings of loneliness and sadness to a great extent. From what I have gone through, I can tell you that it is possible to manage mental illness through medication and counselling/therapy what ever that suits you, and I am very sure that you will be able to have a much better quality of life to live much happier and at peace. I hope you do not mind my writing my own thoughts in a way of advice/guidance. I really do feel from my experiences in my life, and this is why I am writing my own journey, purely to encourage and give hope to many as possible. Many blessings of love, light and healing energies from me. God Bless 🙂 ❤

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    • Thanks for the great comment, of course I don’t mind! 🙂 I’m actually having therapy at the moment, (CBT) I’m meditating, eating healthy, excercising. I’m trying to work through stuff, to make life more manegable for when I return to uni in September. I’m glad you’re doing better now, that’s awesome! Thank you so much, the support is wonderful and means a lot! 🙂 ❤

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  2. I completely get you on this. I feel like we get surrounded by so much everywhere we go that just standardises and forces upon us this façade of love and relationships which *may* be unreachable, and 9 of out 10 times it’s annoying and sucks. But mainly because love is a unique thing I guess, and it’s different for everyone, and everyone expresses it differently…

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  3. Thank you for sharing. I hope you find someone who makes you feel whole.

    I’ve been married to my best friend for almost 12 years and we don’t go out of our way to celebrate Valentine’s Day. When you’re with someone you love, you celebrate it everyday.

    Best wishes.

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